I thought it would be nice to touch base with you regarding what’s on my mind as we kick off summer here in the Northern Hemisphere…
New Cycles and New Choices
With some of my own major life choices soon ahead, lately I’ve been deeply contemplating the nature of choice, and most notably how most of us when confronted with choices tend to think in terms of making choices that are right or wrong, good or bad, etc.
I know for myself that in the past I’ve approached many of the choices in my life through this paradigm – much to my own chagrin! That said, I’d like to offer a different way of approaching choices that I’ve come to really embrace: how to make choices that are true.
Deeply contemplating the nature of choice is certainly not new for me. For many years now working as a professional Intuitive Life Strategist I’ve been counseling folks on their choices.
Many times I’m asked, ‘Robert, what is the right choice for me to make in this situation?’ And while I certainly feel it’s my job to help a client get clarity on the choice and consequence formulas of their life, inherent in asking this question a deep level of their reality is readily revealed: choices are either right or wrong.
The fact is that choices are far more complex and truly can’t fit into a simplistic right/wrong reality. Choices are how we learn, grow, evolve, and come to know what we value. No single choice defines us, yet our essence is revealed or eclipsed through the sum of our choices by what they create in our lives as consequences.
And yet, most of us go into hyper vigilant mode when we are facing a big choice, right? We spin up into our heads in an effort to figure out ‘what’s the right choice.’ Doing so we sadly miss the bigger picture of Destiny, which is that life is nothing but research and one large process of evolution back to love.
There’s nothing to get ‘right’! Yet in our perfectionism and attempt to ‘get it right’ we lose the most powerful part of our ‘choice guidance system.’ Spun up in our head, we lose our heart.
Dropping into the Heart
So long as we stay in our intellect when it comes to making choices we will be greatly limited in making the choice that best serves our Destiny. We will stay at the level of ‘right vs. wrong’ and our mind’s shame based contamination with perfectionism.
Let’s face it, at the end of the day most of us are under the cultural spell that there is something inherently wrong with us – and believe we better be extra careful to make all the ‘right’ choices in life so as to ward off others seeing our innate defection. So our perfectionism amps up whenever a new choice enters our lives and we over analyze, catastrophize, futurize, and forget to harmonize! You know what I’m sayin’??!
We simply can’t make any mistakes! Or else we will be seen as a failure and confirm what our environment has always said all along: we’re simply not good enough. As I write this, I’m brought to tears about this…what a heart break…
This is not to say that when it comes to making many choices in life the intellect doesn’t have its use. We do indeed need to gather data, look at the alternatives, and assess the practical realities in which we live.
Yet the intellectual mind cannot sense the ‘bigger picture’ and what serves the highest good the way our heart can. And it’s from a balance of the intellect and heart coming together to ‘see’ and ‘feel’ a choice that we can make choices that are simply ‘True’.
What is a True Choice?
A True Choice understands life as a process, that we are here to grow and wisdom comes from our mistakes. Good judgment comes from experiences! A True Choice accesses the guidance system the heart is connected to, which is the guidance system of your Soul, while the intellect accesses the guidance system of the Ego.
If we leave things up to the mind alone our choices then tend to be primarily based out of defending our Ego Wounds and fear. This in turn puts us right back into the right/wrong and success/failure reality of the world’s shame based perfectionism. The heart ‘knows’ while the mind ‘thinks’.
That said, as an exercise I’d like you to think of a choice that is currently present in your life that you’ve really been struggling with. Let this be something that you’ve analyzed to death and nonetheless still feel totally confused about. Realize that your confusion is really perhaps the result of trying ‘make the right choice’ when what’s needed is to make a choice that is TRUE.
To get to the True Choice visualize and feel yourself taking this choice down into your heart. Take a breath, feel your entire body, and notice what your body is immediately telling you through your feelings about the choice in question. Don’t even ‘think’ of taking this back to your mind! Stay with your feelings…
Now, what do you know to be true about this choice? In your heart what do you know is the true choice to make, even if it doesn’t completely make sense to your mind?
One way you’ll know what the true choice is for you is by noticing that, in defying logic, it somehow brings power into your system when you take it to your heart, and once you take it back to your mind, you begin to lose power once again to your mental gymnastics. See how that works?!
Ahhh, there is so much more I want to say about this, yet the hour grows late! Just remember that when you make choices that are True you serve the optimal potential of all circumstances, even if it doesn’t make complete sense to your mind. Indeed, choices made with the heart are where all miracles begin…
Until next time,
Much love to you and Namaste,
Intuitive Life Strategist